Thank you so much for taking the time to look through our profile and learn a bit about us! We have a lot of love to give and are beyond grateful to think that you might be considering us. We have been praying for you and this child for a long time. And while we don’t know you yet, we are already amazed by your selflessness, compassion, and courage!

Family means so much to us, and we want you to know that we wish the very best for you and your baby whatever you decide. We hope that we can eventually meet you, give you a big hug, and tell you in person how much you mean to us!

We have always wanted to be parents and if you choose us to adopt your child, we promise we will love that child with all our heart and support them in any way they need. They will always know their story and feel the love that their birth family has for them.

With Love,
Melissa, Bobby, and Rufus

When we first started dating, we often talked about how starting a family was important to us. We both wanted kids, and knew we had so much love to share with a child! Melissa has known for a while that it may be difficult for her to have children, so adoption was something we talked about very early on in our relationship.

While we did try some infertility treatments, the next set of treatments were higher risk and we decided to start our adoption journey instead. The moment we left the Gladney orientation, we knew we had found an incredible partner to help us through this process. We know that adoption is difficult, but we hope that we can find comfort in each other, and we want to support you in any way possible.

We met in 2020 during Covid. With social distancing rules in place we met like most people do: using an online dating app! Melissa had just accepted a new role at work which relocated her from Minnesota to North Carolina. When she got to North Carolina she joined Hinge and swiped right to Bobby. We started talking and it wasn’t long before Bobby asked for a date. Our first date was on a cold November night and we were sitting outside at a wine bar as we got to know each other. We immediately bonded over our love of travel, adventure, and music!

We continued dating, going on hiking adventures, attending many concerts, and taking trips around the world! A year and half later Bobby popped the question while we were in Joshua Tree. When you find the one, you know! We didn’t have a long engagement, we ended up eloping 4 months later and got married in the Azores, Portugal, in August 2022! And we have been dancing together ever since!

Bobby is the BEST! I am so lucky to call him my husband! Bobby comes from an amazing, loving family with his parents, 3 younger sibling, and 3 nieces/nephews. They have all been so supportive through this process and cannot wait to meet the next member of the clan.

Bobby was originally born in DC and moved around a few times, but grew up mostly in North Carolina. He is an incredibly kind, caring, and a selfless person. Some of his biggest strengths are his loyalty and patience. He holds his relationships with friends and family above anything else. This has helped him with his successful career in real estate but also makes him the most amazing husband and my best friend. Bobby loves music and when we are not traveling or headed to a concert, he is playing the guitar or making music in Ableton with friends. He was also part of the Big Brother program here for many years and continues to stay in touch with the 3 brothers he met as they grow up. I cannot wait to watch Bobby become a father. I know this is something he has been looking forward to, and even though there will be a few too many “dad jokes” in our future, I know he’s going to be the best dad!

Fun Facts

• He learned to play the guitar in college. He can surf down a mountain on a snowboard
• He shoots a basketball left handed and throws a football right handed.
• He’s 5’10 in his dating profile but 5’9 IRL He loves adventures! (And can’t wait for our next big one with a family!)
• He gives the best hugs 🙂

Melissa is a kind, fun-loving midwestern gal hailing from the chilly Twin Cities in Minnesota. As it turns out, she actually hates the cold, and decided to move down to North Carolina in the middle of the pandemic for warmer weather and a career opportunity!

Melissa has many hobbies. She enjoys hiking in the mountains, listening to thunderstorms with a glass of wine, and going to concerts to see live music. She also loves DIY projects and is very handy. Her kindness, courage, and empathy stood out from the start. As I got to know her better, I was impressed by her ambition (she’s a manager at a large Fortune 500 company), her killer math and Excel skills (she’s definitely the numbers person), and the love and loyalty she shares with her friends and family. She’s one of a kind!

Melissa always wanted to be a mother and I can say, without reservation, that’s she’s going to be the best mom to a lucky boy or girl. She has so much love to give, and she has already built a caring and nurturing home. She’s made me a better person, and I love her fiercely!

Fun Facts

• She has dimples!
• She LOVES to travel. She’s been to almost a dozen countries and we like to plan one international trip a year.
• She’s always working on a DIY home project and has recently started building out her workshop.
• She’s 5’10” and athletic.
• She loves watching The Bachelor!

We promise that we will surround this child with all of our love from the day we meet until the day we leave this earth. We’ll build a supportive and nurturing environment, a safe home, where they can grow, learn to be themselves and thrive. We’ll put this child’s needs and interests above our
own, in the hopes that they will grow up to live a full, loving, and meaningful life. Simply put, we’ll look out for them at every turn, and support them as they grow into their own person! They’ll always know where they came from and know their story. We promise that we will do our absolute best for them and love them in this world and the next.

-Melissa, Bobby and Rufus